Jan 09 2009
Do you know love?
Recently I received a question about whether I knew if love was real? My first thought was to ponder why a person would ask that question. After all, doesn’t every man or woman experience the pangs of longing for another person? Maybe they were just unsure what true love is.
I began by saying that in my experiences I have found love to be real for 4 women, 1 man and my immediate family. The first woman set the bar as to what I expected from a relationship and from a person of the opposite sex. This is obviously not the usual case. Many will experience something along the lines of puppy love. Others will succumb to hormones and mistake sexual tension for love, which it is not.
The last love was the one that I thought could never be. I believed my time had gone by leaving me alone in this world. Instead I was brought back to life and given a new vigor and vitality. So, I conclude that love can be real more than once in a lifetime buy each time it is different.
When I stated I loved one man, it was not in a sexual or gayish way. This man was my best friend of all time. He helped me when I needed help the most and literally kept me living. He was tragically killed in a robbery over 16 dollars. To this day, no one has been able to replace his place in my heart.
Lastly, there is my family. With all their faults, and despite the pain and loss they have caused me, I can never not love them. They have always come first in my world and they always will. One of my biggest fears was that I would eventually forget my father when he passed away. Thankfully that has not happened.
Yes. Yes…love is real and its power and influence span beyond our current realm of imagination. Yes it is real, and when found it should not be disregarded but rather embraced, for better or worse.
